Hello! I’m Frecelynne and welcome to my pregnancy journey.
Honestly, I’m scared to expose this story because of fear of judgment. I always thought that posting this online is not best for a sensitive and confidential topic like this. People, especially those who personally don’t know you, will always have something to say. But then, I can never please everyone. Also, there are women like me, who are also experiencing the same thing. I hope this could give them a view of how they can go through it. This is for you, for us who have been trying so hard to bear a child.
I’m pleased to tell you my story and I would love to hear yours too! Feel free to leave a comment below!
Remember this famous line by Serena Dalrymple from ‘Bata, bata Paano ka ginawa?’ movie – “A mother plus a father equals a baby.”
Well, Trying-To-Conceive (TTC) couples know the equation all too well. It was only now that I realized the importance of studying Biology’s reproductive health in high school. Back then, I was jesting that I can’t see myself using Biology terms after graduation. No plans on going to med school too. But those jokes have hit me so hard now.
Let’s start this by asking: how can a girl get pregnant – it is when an egg & sperm cells meet. Sounds easy right? Yes! For girls with regular cycles and a healthy reproductive system (and their partners have a healthy reproductive system too). Things are different for girls, who have irregular menstruation like me.
I have had an irregular cycle ever since. I thought that was normal. When I had my first job – I was kinda forced to have it checked as part of the physical exam. It was then I got introduced to my condition. I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). This is a hormonal imbalance that affects women’s menstrual cycle. No period means no egg cells. Resulting in a slimmer chance of getting pregnant.
That time, I had no way of getting pregnant neither plan on having a child! The doctor advised me to take hormonal pills with birth control as a side effect. I asked for other side effects. She mentioned nausea, headaches, weight gain, mood change and more. I asked for another option – she gave me another hormonal pill that I have to take for 3-5 consecutive days. This is the same pill used by TTC women. And a few days after, hello period!
I got tired of going back and forth to the doctor. After all, there’s no cure for this. I can just control my hormones and try hard to balance them. I continue living with irregular periods.
In 2015, I married Dee. I inform him that I have PCOS and we might find it hard to conceive. He said, we can try our best and God will give that angel to us whenever he thinks we’re ready.
During our first year, we decided not to try and enjoy our married life. After all, once you have kids you will never have that alone time again.
But it’s a different story when you hit your first wedding anniversary. People start to ask the “When…” question and give ‘unsolicited advice as if you’re not really trying.
I went to the doctor again. After the initial check-up, I go through series of tests:
- transvaginal ultrasound to see how are my cysts
- blood tests to check my sugar level and thyroid
- She also prescribed lots of medicine that I need to take on certain days.
- Metformin to make me get my period
- Ovulation Pills
- Prenatal vitamins: Folic acid, Vitamin E
Then, after a month I’ll have to see her again and we’ll do the same thing. This is the cycle I have to go through each month. Good thing, check-ups and laboratory tests are covered by our health card. How things would be if it’s not – everything will just rack up.
I also joined forums and groups that I think would help me. Things are better if you are with someone with the same goal by your side.
Right now, I stopped seeing the doctor and my cycle with her. I chose a different path – healthy, herbal, organic. In a different post, I’ll be sharing why. I’ll also give a review of the supplements that I’ll be trying. Also, recipes and food will help us regulate our period.
I’m not a health professional nor dietician. I don’t sell anything nor a member of any multi-level marketing companies. I am just sharing my raw experience of getting pregnant.
Controlling PCOS is time-consuming and costly. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. It’s just the truth. We (together with other women with PCOS) are on a difficult road but I believe we are on a beautiful journey.